So, you’ve made it through the first date nerves and managed to hit it off with someone you like. But how do you build on the chemistry and connection you developed during date number 1, so that you have a successful second date?
A second date is the perfect opportunity to deepen your connection, really start to get to know a person and see if there is real potential for a relationship moving forward. However, many find that the second date can be just as nerve wracking, if not more so than the first! If you both like each other enough to meet up again, then the stakes are now slightly higher, and you may be worried about making a misstep during your second d meeting.
So, we’ve pulled together some simple tips to keep in mind going into your second date to help you get over your nerves and enjoy yourself when you next meet up with your potential partner.
Breathe, and Relax!
Rather than concentrating on all the things which can go wrong, think about everything that has gone right so far! You’ve met someone you like, have been interesting and attractive enough to get them to agree on a first date, and they have shown they like you with a willingness to meet up with you again! All of this is great news!
Look Forward to this New Opportunity
Nerves and awkwardness may have stopped you both from truly relaxing in each other’s company during a first date, but the more time you spend together – the more likely you are to become comfortable with each other. Your second date is a fantastic opportunity to discard first date jitters and get to know each other properly.
Build on Your First Date Conversations
You have one big advantage on over your first date self, and that is you already have shared conversations and experiences to discuss when you meet up. You can show your date what a great listener you are by following up on any events they mentioned on the first date – how are things going at their job, how’s their pet, what about their family? Think about what you discussed first time round and what new conversations can be built from this.
Delve into a Deeper Conversation
Chances are that your first date only touched on subjects superficially, and you can take the opportunity during the 2nd date to delve a little deeper. This doesn’t mean that you should grill your date on every aspect of their past and relationships, but you can share longer stories and more details about family, travel, school, work, and every other subject which allows you to get a better idea about who you both are and whether you are compatible.
Meet Each other in a Different Type of Location
If you met up for a dinner date the first time round, then you might decide to change location to a more casual setting for the next date. Meeting up in your favourite local café, pub, or heading out to an activity date will allow you to get to know each other in a less formal way and bond in a more natural and relaxed environment.
Someone who maybe seemed a little quiet and nervous in one location, might be feel more themselves in a familiar environment where they feel more confident.
