If you are growing tired of hook up culture and feel you are ready for a committed relationship – it can be difficult to know where to start. Obviously, every person and every relationship is different and there are not hard and fast rules which will guarantee relationship success.
But if you are looking to develop a meaningful connection with someone you feel hopeful about there are some guidelines which should set you on the right path. Read below to discover our 5 tips for building a successful long term relationship.
Be Clear With Yourself About What You Are Looking For
Before you get started pursuing a new relationship or heading back to the dating apps. Be honest with yourself about what you are looking for.
Don’t let yourself be swayed by the profiles of people who aren’t looking for the same kind of relationship you are. If you know what you are looking for in your next partner, you won’t want to waste time with unsuitable matches.
Make Sure You Learn For Your Past Mistakes
Take some time to think about why your past relationships were unsuccessful. Do you look for love in the wrong places? Are there some behaviours and mindsets you need to work on before you can build a successful relationship? This will help to increase your chances of developing a long term connection next time.
Become More Sociable
Although it is of course possible to meet the love of your life on an app. It is not the only way! Think about joining some local clubs and pursuing new hobbies.
If you meet someone you like through a shared interest, you’ll automatically have some common ground to talk about and are likely to have lots of other interests in common too!
Making the effort to be more sociable and meet up with your friends more often also increases your chances of meeting new people and friends of friends who just might be your perfect partner!
Be Honest About Where You Are in Your Life
As well as being honest with yourself, you also need to be honest with your partner about where you are in life and what your hopes are for your next relationship.
If you are looking for something serious, don’t be afraid to share this. It will mean that lines don’t get crossed and you don’t end up heartbroken down the line by someone who was never looking for anything long term.
This doesn’t mean you have to start talking about potential schools for your children on date number 1! But make sure to be clear about what you are looking for and don’t feel like you have to hide who you are and what you want.
Don’t Rush Things!
If you are excited about a new relationship and things are going very well, it is easy to rush through the natural relationship stages. Let your new relationship breathe and don’t let your new connection buckle under your long term expectations.