In all the excitement and optimism of a new relationship, you may find that all logic quickly goers out the window! But if you want to build a relationship that lasts, there are certain hints you need to keep in mind.
Obviously, each relationship is different and there are no “one-size fits all” guidelines which will guarantee romantic success. But there are certain pitfalls we all hit here and there in our relationships, that we learn to avoid the nest time round (hopefully!)
Below we have detailed some things to think about when you are just getting started as a couple and want to make sure you have the best chance of developing a healthy, positive, and loving relationship which will go the distance.
Maintain Your Life Priorities!
Although it is easy to get carried away if you meet someone promising, you need to make sure not to abandon your priorities in the other aspects of your lives. Make sure that you maintain a healthy perspective about your new connection and don’t let your interest morph into obsession.
Have a Clear Idea About What You Want in a Relationship
Compromise in a relationship is inevitable, but you should have a clear idea about what you want in a relationship and what behaviour you won’t tolerate. If you are looking for a successful relationship, don’t ignore read flags such as heavy drinking, disrespectful attitudes, or vastly different life goals.
Dig Beneath the Surface Level
We are all on our absolute best behaviour at the start of a relationship, it’s only natural that you want to present the best sides of yourself to your new partner. But if you want a relationship that lasts, neither of you can be playing a role continuously. Make sure that you know the real person beneath the romantic gestures and make sure to spend lots of time together in everyday situations to make sure you can have fun and enjoy each other’s company in any circumstance.
Protect Your Worth
It’s easy to become anxious and uncertain about yourself in certain dating situations, but you need to make sure to protect yourself and have a clear idea about what disrespectful behaviour you won’t tolerate. There is a difference between mistakes and annoying habits which can be overlooked, and mor important red flags – make sure to keep an eye out for worrying issues.
Don’t Rush Things
If you meet someone you really like and you get along like a house on fire, it can be tempted to rush things and start speeding up the progression of the relationship. However, a whirlwind romance usually has less chance of long term success than a romance which progressed at a steady pace.
Give you and your partner a chance to breathe and make sure you both make time for friends, families, and hobbies. Your partner should be an enhancement of your life, not a complete and total distraction from it.
