The majority of people these days keep their true personality hidden and this is especially true when it come to impressing someone. When dating this fact has a very sneaky way of coming back and snapping you in the behind. You meet someone who is looking for a relationship and inevitably you only want them to see the more polished side of you, keeping the tarnished side well hidden and out of view. You definitely don’t want a potential partner to find out you leave the toilet seat up and only do the washing up when you’ve run out of plates. You wait until you have won them over before you even let them glimpse at your undesirable side or indeed discovering if they may be your true partner.
There are, however, some people who are more effective at hiding their true selves. There are occasions where you find you are in a committed relationship before you learn that your other half has some less than savoury attributes that they had hidden well in the initial getting to know you phase, that are only just starting to come to light. While the smaller things like the toilet seat up and the pile of dirty clothes in the corner of the room may seem mildly annoying, in truth the fact that after you move in together you find your romantic partner likes to punch holes in walls and throws whatever comes to hand at you head when angry, is not something you can just brush under the carpet as one of those annoying little things you love about them.
Luckily there are some ways that allow you to test their personality before you choose to commit or start dating. For example watch what they are like when under stress. When the stress levels are high it breaks down the walls a person puts up to hide their true selves, it is more likely they will be unable to keep the walls up when under strain. When strong emotions are present this is when a persons true colours will be on show for everyone to see.
Also watch how they treat others around them. Does your boyfriend treat his mother like a queen? Is your girlfriend a malicious gossip whilst out with her friends? If this is the case then you have a pretty good idea what they are like when they are not trying to impress you.
Another thing to watch is how they react to strangers. If you are out at a restaurant and the waiter brings the wrong order see how they react? Do they shrug it off and make a joke of it while waiting for the order to be changed or do they kick up a fuss? if they get angry over a simple mistake that can be easily corrected, how will they act around you if you make a mistake? Of course everyone makes mistakes, but ideally you would feel happier with a partner who is understanding and patient rather than one that flys off the handle at a simple mix up.
At the end of the day people have difficulty pretending to be someone they are not when under strain. All relationships have good and bad times and it’s in your best interest to get it right when it comes to finding that special someone. You certainly do not want to invest your time in a person who’s hidden faults flare up without warning. By watching how they react to everything you can suss out any potential relationship ending problems that may cause you pain in the future.
