Most men and women, at some stage in life give in to the fact that those perfect Hollywood-movie style relationships do not exist in the real world. We would all agree that having a relationship form without any trust issues, no disagreements and you both getting along every minute of every day would be fantastic. However we know that relationships are not like that, and even though we are aware of this, there are certain things a couple can do to help you to smooth the pathway to relationship perfection.
1. Know when you should speak and when you should listen.
If you find there is a major problem in your relationship that you feel is annoying you and will cause problems in the future, now would be the perfect time to mention it to your partner. It is true that confronting your partner over something about the relationship can feel like you will make things worse, but it is really important you let your partner know what is troubling you. Hopefully by doing this the issue can be fixed easily and you can continue on your road to that perfect relationship. Remember communication is the key in all relationships. Never keep anything bottled up as it will only make it worse and voicing your concerns may raise awareness of a problem your partner never knew existed. They won’t know unless you tell them, they cannot read your mind.
However you do not have to voice everything you think of. Those little tiny habits that sometimes get on your nerves are not worth mentioning. If they hum when on the computer or tap their foot unconsciously whilst eating, these are things you rant about when out with your best mates. It’s just something they do, it’s not hurting anyone and eventually you will stop noticing it. Learn to let the little things go.
2. Don’t become conjoined at the hip.
Couples who spend every waking moment together are a disaster waiting to happen. It is great that you love each other enough to want to be together all the time, but you need to have time to yourself as well, however long you want it for. Your friends want to spend time with you and just you, not you and your partner. Maybe have couples nights for when you all want to go out together and leave the other nights out, just for you and your friends. Be aware that some of your friends may not have a partner and they don’t want to keep watching you and yours snuggling up to one another over the starters whilst they feel like the spare wheel. Besides, if you are around each other constantly, when will you have time to rant about their annoying little habits?
Being around your other half all the time may eventually sap the need for one another from your relationship. When you see each other all the time, things like having dinner together or watching a movie cuddled up on the sofa are no longer something special. Keeping parts of your lives separate is an important factor in maintaining a relationship that’s hot and exciting.
3. Those all important Three Little Words
To keep a healthy relationship the three essential words that you will need are not ‘I Love You’, but ‘I Am Sorry’. If you have made a mistake whether it’s big or small be brave and apologise. These rules apply to both of you, everyone makes mistakes or says something they didn’t mean. It is easier to forgive a person when they apologise for their mistake, so make sure if you haven’t done so already practice those words now. You are both equal in this relationship and when you follow these three helpful tips you will defiantly have smoothed the path to a perfect relationship.
