The start of a new relationship can be extremely exciting. The possibility of building a future after having finally found your perfect someone can be intoxicating and have you walking on air. But as hard as it is, you should make sure not to get carried away!
That’s not to say that you shouldn’t be excited about meeting your new partner, but there are some golden rules to follow if you want to set yourself up for romantic success!
Set Realistic Expectations
Remember, that no matter what you think right now, nobody is perfect! And that is not a terrible thing! If everyone was without their own individual flaws and quirks, the world would be a much more boring place.
Try to avoid putting your partner on a pedestal, this is only setting your relationship up for trouble later on. Be realistic about the fact that you are dating another human being, with all the different personality traits, flaws, and mistakes that come with that.
Having a realistic picture of the person you are dating, means that you won’t be disappointed when they prove to be less than perfect!
Be Honest About Who You Are
You should also make sure that you don’t feel any pressure to put on a constant performance about being perfect yourself! This is exhausting, dishonest, and is not giving your partner the chance to date the real you – chances are they will find you fantastic!
So, drop the act and be yourself! It’s the key to long-term and genuine relationship success.
Make Sure to Communicate
It’s been said over and over throughout the years, but that’s because it is true – Communication is Key! Neither of you is a mind reader, and many promising relationships have been spoiled by misunderstandings that could have been cleared up by talking honestly. Bottling up your thoughts and feelings will probably lead to a big blow-up later down the line!
If you feel angry, upset, or resentful about something your partner has done, communicate it. That doesn’t mean you should yell at them or start an argument every day. But calmly and openly communicate how you feel and why you are feeling that way. Chances are an honest and open approach will be appreciated by your partner.
Don’t Move Too Fast!
We get it. New relationships are incredibly exciting. And if you are already seeing marriage and kids in your future, it can be tempting to try and push the relationship forward quickly. But make sure not to rush too fast! The start of a relationship is a time to get to know each other, build up a friendship, share experiences and memories, develop companionship, and establish a way of communicating.
Missing out on these integral building blocks of a relationship and racing forward, could end up being disastrous in the long run. Don’t worry about what anyone else thinks, your age, or where you are in life – give your new relationship room to breathe and grow naturally and it will end up blossoming healthily in due time.
