Do you find that you don’t have a problem actually getting a date, but never seem to get a second. Clearly there does not seem to be a problem with your chat up lines, but are you failing on the actual date itself? What is it you are doing wrong? It is clear that some of the dating skills you use whilst on a date may be letting you down, but it’s time to figure out what is going wrong.
The biggest dating rule that gets broken by many daters around the world is learning how to communicate!
If you learn how to communicate during your date, whether it’s with someone you want to see again or not, you will definitely find second dates will come flooding in. Poor communication on a date can be achieved in a few different ways, but you will find your ability to interact with your date will determine what happens next.
A helpful thing to remember when you are out on a date is allowing that person to get an idea of who you are without dominating the conversation. Just remember to allow your date to join in the conversation. Learn how to give the right amount of information about yourself whilst asking the right questions to find out about the other person. Let them talk about themselves whilst you maintain a sense of mystery. They will definitely want that second date with you just to find out more. The last thing your date wants is to hear you rabbiting on about yourself to the point they are sick of listening to you.
However on the other end of the scale if you don’t talk enough they will get tired of trying. You are both there to have a good time, to laugh and enjoy one another’s company. This is the time where you and your date are deciding if this initial date will lead to a second and the easiest way to allow your date to make an easy decision is to open up just enough to give them a taste of who you are.
Make your date laugh, or at least smile. Allowing yourself to loosen up will mean your date with most likely follow suit. Telling a funny story or a joke, however cheesy it may be, will hopefully produce some smiles and laughter which in turn will relax your date and make the whole experience a pleasure rather than a chore. Try not to be a wannabe stand up comic as the act will get boring really quickly. And know when to stop. If telling your jokes is not getting a response, turn their attention onto something else. You may need to practice but you’ll get the hang of it.
Just be yourself instead of being fake. Treat your date with respect and give them an idea of what another date with you will be like. Have confidence in yourself, giving enough information to allow a little mystery and back it up with a sense of humour and you can guarantee a second date.
