Free Dating Rules – Rule Number One – Don’t be needy.
Until you find yourself in a solid relationship, do your best to keep any neediness hidden. The last thing your date should have to deal with is you constantly needing things from them. In the early stage of the relationship try to carry on like you did when you were single. They need to know that you can take care of yourself, but as the relationship grows and starts to solidify you can then ask them to do a little more for you. Your date will like to feel needed however they don’t want the impression you can’t live without them as soon as you meet.
Try not to be negative
When out avoid criticism of others, try and keep your strong opinions about how the wine wasn’t crisp enough or how they could have improved the salad etc… Try to leave the complaining at home. Your date does not want you whining to them about your job, family or work colleagues, these problems are not theirs. If you want to vent your frustrations about all of these things then save it for one of your friends. They are probably used to it by now and have their own problems they will vent to you. One of the biggest things that we find attractive in a date is whether they will make our life happier or not. The more negativity you show the less likely they will want to be around you. So making sure you are that little ray of sunshine they need after a hard day at work you can be sure they will want to keep you.
Remember: You are not on a date to find out if that person accepts YOU.
You are there to find out if you will accept them. Do they have the qualities you value? Does that person treat you the way you like being treated? And above all do they make you feel good about yourself? At the end of the day you don’t want to have to change to fit the relationship, it should develop naturally and feel comfortable and easy.
Also remember that almost all men like pursuing women.
If you are the female initiating contact, make sure you let the man take over once you’ve met. Allow the man to contact you and arrange a date, and wait for him to write the follow up e-mail. Let him plan your future together, but keep him guessing to how much you like him. Play a little hard to get until you are confident about how much he likes you then start to show more of your feelings. Men love to feel like they are in control. Most men find it a little dominating if the woman controls everything.
And finally, to sum up the Free Dating Rules – be playful and have fun.
We all like to smile and have a laugh and a quality daters are always looking for in each other is the ability to make them feel happy. Make a joke or say something out of the ordinary to lighten the mood and release the tension. When you are flirting with strangers approach them with the attitude that whatever happens you are going to have fun doing it and with that philosophy you will always end up a winner.
