Do you think your latest date is the Mr./Ms. Right that you’ve been waiting all your life for? Are you already hopelessly in love with your date and can’t wait to take the relationship to the next level? Well, stop yourself before you do anything rash or something that would cause you to regret later. Ask yourself these 6 important questions about your latest date before planning a future together with him or her.
1: Do you really respect the person you’re dating?
The foundation of any healthy relationship is respect. If you don’t respect someone, no matter how much you are attracted to them, the relationship will never last long. Ask yourself if you really respect the person you are dating. Do you admire them for what they are? Are they achievers in their life and career, have they done anything to win your admiration? You should never be with someone you don’t respect.
2: What is it that attracts you to your date?
Be true to yourself – what is it about your date that you find truly attractive? Is it their looks, hot body, money, flashy car or status? Remember this – all that glitters is not gold. Don’t get carried away by superficial traits. Observe your date closely – watch how they react or behave with the less fortunate. How do they interact with your friends and family? Do they care about what’s going on in the world, or is it just about “Me! Me! Me!” with them?
3: Does your date have the same core values that you do?
You have certain core values in your life – whether it is honesty, hard work, respect, caring for the less fortunate and so on. Does your date share the same core values? For example, if you’re a very religious or spiritual person and your date is contemptuous of all religions and spirituality, then the potential for conflict in your relationship is just too high. Walk away while you still can! Your core values are what define you and make you what you are. You shouldn’t be with a person who doesn’t share them.
4: Is your date reliable and trustworthy?
Does your date really appear to be reliable and trustworthy? Have they lied to you about anything? Are they not forthcoming about their past? Have they deliberately misled you? If so, walk away at the speed of light and never look back. You don’t want to be with someone you cannot trust or does not keep their word. There cannot be a relationship without trust.
5: What is your date’s attitude to money?
Is your date financially independent, or are they saddled with huge credit card debt? How financially literate are they? Do they share a healthy relationship with money, do they respect money or do they spend like there’s no tomorrow? It’s okay to ask them about their bank balance. You don’t want to be with someone who is going to live off your savings, or someone who wants to be with you just for your money. You certainly don’t want to be with someone who merely sees you as their route out of financial insolvency!
6: Does your date bring out the best or the worst in you?
Do you feel happy in the presence of your date? Do you feel at ease with them, or do you feel constantly under stress whenever you are with them? You want your date to make you relaxed; you don’t want to be with someone who makes you feel anxious or inferior in any way. You shouldn’t want to be with someone who condescends towards you or makes you feel insecure, albeit inadvertently. You don’t want to be with someone who takes you tense or causes you to lose your patience. Just walk away!
We hope you’ll keep these 6 questions in mind as you take a decision about your date. It’s not a bad thing to follow your heart, never ignore what your brain tells you.
