The majority of people start a relationship with the best intentions and can’t ever imagine breaking up with their perfect person. But a lot of those people also find themselves looking for a new love after falling into the common traps and mistakes which saw their previous relationship crash and burn.
Here are the mistakes to avoid if you want to make sure you new relationships last.
You Need to Trust Each other
You need to have complete confidence in trusting your partner if you want complete honesty and intimacy. Trust is essential when it comes to key aspects of the relationship including building a future together and financial decisions.
Don’t ignore issues such as overspending, gambling habits, or other worrying problems and relegate them to suspicions which end up ruining the relationship. Address problems calmly and make sure that destructive patterns of half-truths, hiding habits, and unspoken suspicions don’t cause damage.
Don’t Let Jealousy and Infidelity Infect Your Relationship
Closely related to the issue of trust is jealously and infidelity. These can be relationship killers if cheating or suspected cheating become part of the equation. Whether a partner is overly flirtatious, engages in emotional affairs, or has trouble remaining faithful – lost trust is incredibly hard to recover.
Unwarranted jealously based on insecurity and misunderstandings can also cause harm to couples which can be hard to come back from. If you are innocent and accused of infidelity by a cheating partner, it can be insulting and lead you to question what they think of you.
So, it is important that couples have clear lines about what behaviour is unacceptable and are committed to calmly talking about situations which make them feel jealous and uncomfortable.
Not Knowing How to Communicate Effectively
Many failed couples are damaged by an inability to properly communicate their thoughts and feelings. If you can’t honestly and openly communicate with each other, then resentment may fester and lead to partners drifting apart.
Make sure you learn how to effectively communicate with each other calmly and honestly about your issues without losing your temper and demanding on always getting your own way.
Make Sure You Both Prioritise Your Relationship
No matter how determined you are, if you are the only one pulling for your relationship then you are fighting an uphill battle. Make sure that you both prioritise your relationship, have regular date nights and have a balanced view of how to approach your daily life.
If a partner starts to take a relationship for granted, they can allow hobbies, friendships and careers to become more important in their daily lives. This will only lead to resentment, arguments, and your partner feeling overlooked and ignored.
There is Initial Attraction but Long Term Incompatibility
Although the adage about opposites attracting is true in a lot of cases, it might not make for a long lasting relationship. Some differences are easy to deal with, but core beliefs, expectations and life plans need to be addressed and compromises made which don’t end up with on partner holding onto long term resentments.
So, it is always better to address these issues head on when embarking on a committed relationship, rather than ploughing ahead and hoping the other person will change their mind somewhere along the line.
