Every date is going to be different in one way or another, what everyone wants to know is if their date is into them or not. Some people can tell if they are not clicking with their date, for others it may not be so easy. Here are a few ways you can tell if your date is not into you.
Are they looking for a way out?
On the whole a date will do the bare minimum out of courtesy when they are bored. Not every date goes well and if you are finding your date doesn’t order extra drinks, dessert and checks their watch a few too many times it may be a sign they are not committed and looking for an early exit.
Also if they suggest asking friends to join them it is time to call it a day. By bringing other people into the date it will dilute the time spent with each other and confirm the lack of interest.
They will keep the date going.
When a date is showing interest they will do as much as they can to keep the date going, ordering extra drinks, desserts, suggest going somewhere else afterwards (not their place!) They will do the exact opposite from a person wanting to end the date as soon as possible.
No Sharing.
Your date will not want to share you with anyone else if they are interested in you. Going somewhere quiet and secluded means they will want to get to know you better without anyone else interfering. When a date does not call in reinforcements, they are happy with your company and do not need other influences and outlets to keep them happy such as a night club and friends. Coupled with your date looking for ways to extend the date without being too needy, you definitely have caught their attention.
The Second Date.
Does your date suggest a second meeting? If your are having a good time and talk about interests, your date may suggest things you could both do when you meet up again. While this is a good sign, don’t get too carried away. It means your date wants to see you again, not necessarily spend the rest of their life with you.
They Follow up with a text.
If a date is in to you then a great date will follow the meeting with a text saying how much they enjoyed themselves. This means you will have their number and is a clear sign they want to extend contact with you just that little bit longer. If you think about a date where you were not interested in the other person, would you be texting them after you get home?
No Contact
If it has been at least three days and you have not had any contact from your date, it is most likely they are not interested. They won’t prolong something they don’t think will go anywhere, so take the hint and move on. Remember, not everyone clicks.
Consistency!
Never think that a few dates means you are a couple. Wait until you have seen the other person consistently for a least a month or even two before you think it might be going somewhere. If you have been seeing them regularly over a longer period of time they are definitely into you.
Finally are they spontaneous?
Once you and your date are seeing each other on a regular basis, take notice of what things you are doing. If they ask you to help them with an errand, go for walks, catch a movie or go out for coffee this is the next step to letting you know they are interested in you and want you to be around them more whatever and wherever. When you meet up informally you know they are definitely into you.
